I need your advice

When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
And in my hour of darkness
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be.
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

And when the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree,
There will be an answer, let it be.
For though they may be parted there is
Still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be, let it be. Yeah
There will be an answer, let it be.

And when the night is cloudy,
There is still a light that shines on me,
Shine on until tomorrow, let it be.
I wake up to the sound of music
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be.
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be, let it be,
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Beatles

If youre the one being hurt by the person u most care about, talk to that person. RATIONALLY in a MATURED tone. Both must be willing to give and take i guess. This is one way =)

Stay strong and be clear of what you want. There is no right or wrong answer , sometimes ppl around tends to care for us too much that they forget the person they hurt is the person u care the most which will influent yr emotion as well.

Perhaps a frank and open discussion to find out of the problem and try to balance between the 2 persons.

I know its not easy, only time can prove.

p/s: At least be happy you have people to love and be loved.

"What would you do, when you see the person you love most, get insulted and hurt by people that person care most? Can you do anything at all?" -- Tough one. Hope you get this sorted out soon enough. Good luck!

pray

there's nothing u can do much, rather than using your own ways which in return may even create more problems.....

juz pray.....and ask God to solve 4u. no need to worry....

You are playing a role in making both parties accept each other because you are the one who love most and care most by them at the same time..:)

Stay strong and think positively..Good Luck :)

take some time to cool down. Time can change on how people think and react. You can't think rationally when it comes to arguments that based on anger. People says nasty stuff when they're angry (they usually don't mean it), so take some time off. Think and reflect. When both parties clear minded, you may start approach back, hold him/her, say cute-cute stuff, melt her heart away, then you say sorry. But, if it's a long distance relationship, yeah.. you need to have more time to recover. hope this helps. Good luck!

Golden Rule in Relationship:

He who cares less is most powerful!

To be honest, this question really calls for more information. I can't help you at all besides doing what everyone else is doing and just giving you very general, broad advice...which can help some, but not very much.

If you would like, go to the site listed in my name and leave me a comment on any one of my lj entries. I will see it, and we can talk more specifically about the problem or problems there. I would love to try and help you, as you are such a caring and sweet girl (as far as I can tell from all of your posts), and you don't deserve to be in such emotional pain. :(

I guess you need to make those people know that you love them so much and both means the world to you.
And hoefully, they'll realise and one day they'll reconcile for your sake :-)

all i can say is love is a long journey. and, i believe you know what you will and should do. everything is about choice.

work things out if you really love him.if things can't be worked out, then maybe you guys are not meant to be. just hang onto it, until you think thats too much for you to take. By then you know what to do.

try your best so that we will never regret.

if its not meant to be, just let it be. Don't dwell on thing that you can't even help it.

Stay happy, shine brighter. everyone deserve to be happy.



Good luck, cheers!

If this is lovers relationship difficulties, it is stemming from a naturally produced chemical imbalance at a certain age that effects brain's inner chemistry. Love makes you do utterly foolish things such as obsessive jealousy and insult. The pathology of romance is playing a pivotal role in choosing the right partner. Correct and true relationship will keep romance's fires burning long enough to yield an evolutionarily satisfactory end for offspring.

Dont woli about those "ghosts"...Tongue though the smallest part of human beings (mentioned in bible) but being the most poisonous of ALL... Of course provide all the support you can for the one you loved the most

perhaps take some time off from each other, it would be helpful if they is something to keep you busy for a while before talking to the person again... perhaps then both side will have enough time to think things over... just based on personal experience.

I can't bear to see someone that i love is being hurt! There must be a reason for everything and I believe every problem has their own solution! believe in yourself and help him go through it!

agree with Vivien. take some time off and get back together when situation cool down

At your age and from what I know of you from emails you are no fool, I would say be true to yourself first, if its true love then being who you are will make them see you are worth their love.

If not then find the strength to keep looking for the one who really can see the real you is worth everything in life.

Relationships are not mean to be easy, but they should also be relatively painless.

Give more details lah.

have sex. you'd be surprise how having sex lightens the burden

give them banana to eat to improve their mood first and sort things out rationally. proven.

If the person feel that he or she will be hurt similarly again in the future, then end the relationship. If not, give another chance. See, you don't owe him/her anything in your last life, ok?

I probably know why and how to deal with it... because it happened to me before.. hehe

I'll call you or vice versa

I agree with Jonneh. Without any information as to what has happened, there is definitely any of us are able to provide you an advice.

Even professional consultants seeks to gather more information about their client's problems first to understand the situation before giving their professional advice. ;)

i guess just be there to comfort him or her....theres nothing much you can do unless you really want to interfere with his or her life

LOVE is not a bed of roses, so make the best of it.

Just talk. Be honest about how you feel. The other party needs to do the same. I just went through this and you both need to know one another's needs and expectations.

Also keep in mind that tough times aren't the end of a relationship, they are good for it. If you guys get past this rough patch, then you'll have more appreciation for one another and your love will have been tested.

But yeah, it may sound cliche, but communication is key. Do this first, and whatever you two decide from there is your decision together.

Good luck!

Sigh... This is the wheel of life that goes up and down...

Just decide yourself what to do and feel which decision can make yourself in comfort! The palm of your hand is your flesh. At the same time, the skin behind your palm is the same too!

Life hurts sometimes but eventually it will be happy in a period of time. Nicole, be strong!

yes you can do something. You know best what to do in your situation. No one can tell you what to do because you know what you need to do in your heart. I strongly believe that we often are frustrated and thinking that we dont know what the solution is. But in reality we DO know what to do but the action scares us. We are afraid of the consequences of our choice. That is why; dont be afraid. Make your decision. IF it happens it happens. You can only learn form the situation and be more prepared the next time. You (two) know how to get through, you have the tools, you have the skills, you have the love, now use it all.

just stay with the person you love most.. lend him your ear and shoulder.. and eventually it will settle itself...

take care..

my guess is that it's between parents & bf?

anon above: :)

Mother or father is the most important people in our life. Without them, we are nothing.

i say lose the bf...there's an ocean of them, your parents brought you up and fed you for years so u owe it to them

comfort him/her. talk to your closest friend. I just changed my url. add me ya. and drop me a comment. http://whatson-her-mind.blogspot.com

What terrible advice just to tell Nicole to choose a side, no matter what the facts are. Wonderful to be filial, but the gift of life is not a gift at all if payback is required.

Nicole, with personal conflict, understand and empathize as best you can with everyone involved. But also look after yourself and make clear that nothing positive results from attacks... and that what is going on is doing damage to your feelings as well. Take care!

Relationship always with ups and downs. I know how hard it can be when we are going through difficult moment.

Well, I don't have advices here as I don't really know the details. Anyway, maybe you can try to understand how much you love him as well as the person who insulted your partner. What can you do to improve the situation? Where should you start tackling the problem? When?

Sometimes, time is the answer. No one can predict future, but we can try to work on our present. Do whatever we can do, and live to God.

I believe, with love, patience and honesty, you will find the way in dealing with this conflict.

*hugs*

Be strong and all the best Nicole.. :)

i dunno what is the real story. but i believe there must be ONE super strong reason why they're "against/hurting" the bf. if there is nothing you/bf could do now to overcome or persuade your parents to accept his drawback, then the bf must learn to adapt and prove to them so that eventually he will be accepted as part of the family :)

I don't have a great idea as I am a mess myself. Everyone has its difficult time in a relationship. It's difficult because two people who want to be with each other working so hard. Don't simply give up!

All the best Nicole!