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Disclaimer: All opinions expressed here are strictly of Nicolekiss, any offence caused by this entry does not reflect that of HUGO Fragrances.
GUYS always have this misconception that it takes an effort of building a rocket ship to court a girl; whereas girls only need to fling her hair, lower her sleeve exposing her bare shoulder and wink, and the guy will take the bait.
As simple as that?!
You see, guys have a thing call EGO.
The reason WHY is it necessary for guys to make the first move is because we have to understand that all men, have egos.
Now before any of the guys out there started flaming me, think about this:
How many of you out there, though don’t mind splitting the bill on a dinner, but prefer to be seen to foot the bill when the waiter brings the bill over?
Now how many of the guys out there can tell people that his wife/girlfriend is the main/sole bread winner in the family/relationship?
And finally, how many of you guys will freak out if your girlfriend (or just any girl) kneels down and proposes to you?
“Marry me or else”
Let’s exclude those minority of ego-less male-female-equality-follower males (which are indeed rare), 100 dollars says that 99% of the guys out there will prefer to be known to take the lead in a relationship.
I even have guys telling me girls who make the first move scare the daylight out of them.
So this is what’s going to happen when a girl made the first move to say ‘Hi’
Guys will return to their tables to boast to the other blokes “Hey you know that pretty girl over there, ha ha, she just made a move on me. Yea she’s all over me man. I think I might have a chance to hit home base tonight. But I’m gonna play it cool, to make her want more you know. Any of you have a condom?”
They play it up, make them sound like they’re so irresistible and make us look like strumpets.
Another reason why girls should NOT make the first move is we are easily treated as being “cheap”. Guys dislike desperate girls, and as a girl, making the first move is equivalent to a desperate act.
If a guy approaches several girls and gets rejected, we will say it’s only human nature and it is acceptable.
If a girl approaches more than one guy and gets rejected, she’s desperate. What’s worse, she’s “cheap”. And even if she is more likely to be accepted, guys will not appreciate girls like this.
Where do you think the line “It’s all about the chase” come from? From guys of course.
Because we throw ourselves to guys, who will not be treated as “valuable” as those girls whom guys take effort to court.
“But what if I really like that guy and the guy is too dumb to realize?” you asked.
That is why girls are the smartest creatures on earth.
We play hypnosis. Instead of going over to a man and tell him you want to ask him out on a date, you should be thinking of how to make that man come over to you.
The trick is to make him THINK that he is making is the first move even though you are the one taking the initiative. That way, not only you protect his ego, you are still eligible for the “chase”.
Drop hints. Stare into his eyes longer than a glance, shorter than an observation. Flirt with him one second but be cold the other. Ask him out, but wait for him to call. Do whatever you can, just keep it cool!
If he’s not responding, give up. Guys are not as dumb as you think. They know when they are fancied, and they know when to act stupid.
It’s just my personal opinion though. Do you think GUYS should, as it always has been, make the first move? Post your comments with your email address.
HUGO XY for him and HUGO XX for her – Harmony is Overrated.
So guys, if you’re reading this. Stop hesitating, go to your nearest florist shop and buy your lady a bouquet of roses now. (Send to me if you wish, I love flowers)